What happens to a big dream if the level of our self-confidence is not so amazing? It’s not realized.

Effective Self-Confidence is one of the most important tools for personal growth. The level of our self-confidence affects how successful we are in meeting our needs.

Self-confidence don’t come overnight, and it require patience and lot of hard work. But once gained, it will give you the strength and power to achieve all your dreams.

But how to build self-confidence? What should be done in order to have sense of balanced self-confidence?

Calm Growth.com deliver answers. In this post, we’ll explain self-confidence, why to build self-confidence, who needs self-confidence and how to build self-confidence.

In front of you is the result of an analysis of one of the most important growth factors. Read carefully.

In one of the earlier posts, I include 36 great resources that you can use to strengthen your confidence. Explore and read it again. You will benefit.

What is Self-confidence?

In my last article (on self-confidence) I noted that the self-confidence is an attitude that you are convinced in your ability, power, sense of control, faith in yourself, etc.

However, there are many definitions and understandings of self-confidence. So, when we ask this question, we can not expect to have more than one right answer.

To make this article correct, we must distinguish between expression of self-confidence through behavior (and actions) and in different states of mind.

1. Self-confidence is the difference between the two states of mind.

Assume that there are two states of mind.

One, when you feel vulnerable, weak, incompetent. The mind is selecting only certain thinking and focuses around that.

And another state of mind, when you have faith in yourself and believe that nothing will break you.

Your level of self-confidence would be the difference between these two states.

Here, it’s important what is your current state of mind. Does not matter if you do one thing without self-confidence, as long as your state of mind is self-confident and strong.

2. Self-confidence is the way we behave. (set of standards by which we act)

You can act:

• as a self-confident person. (for example, act without regard to other people’s opinions.)
• as a person with no self-confidence. (for example, staying in your comfort zone or seeking people’s approval)

Here is emphasized the way you behave. It does not matter if you do not feel confident, as long as you act confidently.

Why to build self-confidence?

A great question to ask… The answer to this question will give you motivation that you need to really work on your self-confidence…
And indeed, why should you be confident?

1.Access to more of life’s experiences.

Self-confidence gives you faith in yourself. When we go to unfamiliar places, situations and circumstances, assurance that we will be able to deal with the difficulties is extremely important.

With this certainty we will not be afraid of new situations and experiences. In this way, we can enter a whole new exciting world.

Without self-confidence that is not possible.

2. Better relation with people

Self-confident person will always have better relationship with people and more friends. People with no self-confidence will try to falsely flatter you. They are not sincere (because they are seeking people’s approval). And nobody wants that.

In addition, people with no self-esteem are negative, always complain, they depend on someone else’s opinions and so on. They are generally unhappy. And they want to continue with it. Even when they had plenty of offers for friendship, they refuse the potential friendship. Why? People with no self-confidence think they do not deserve good things to happen to them.

Please do not understand me wrong. I do not hate people with low self-confidence. I love them. It is only a pity that they have so much potential that remains unused.

3. More happiness and satisfaction in life.

As I said, people with low self-esteem refuse pleasure and happiness. They believe they are not worth so much.

When you think you’re ugly, stupid, good-for-nothing, weak, useless and worthless, you do not want to treat yourself well. You hate yourself. You always feel pressure, hatred and fear. That is not the life you want for yourself, right?

Want a fulfilled life? Unstoppable self-confidence is necessary.
Self-confident person chooses a positive self-image, and therefore has a higher quality of life.

4. Solving problems.

A person with low self-esteem can not effectively solve problems. Why? Because he can’t clearly explain the problem to himself. Such a person sees the problem as something that cannot be solved, before trying to solve it. He labels his problems as “too hard.” And he labels himself as “too weak.” With all of these labels, it will be impossible to solve problems effectively.

On the other hand, strong self-confidence is a great tool for solving problems.

Why? Because strong self-confidence will eliminate negative thoughts that occur before any action. And that will not only begin but also speed up your action.

So, with self-confidence you can expect to meet objectives and solve problems effectively.

6 levels of growth, The Path To Self-Confidence

Now that you know how much self-confidence is important for human growth, you can go ahead and build it. However, there is not only one way to build confidence. There are many ways. It depends on what is your level of personal development. Self-confidence does not have the same meaning for the man who is spiritually enlightened as for the man who is depressed. You have to understand this.

So, if we explain here how to build self-confidence for a man who is depressed, this article would not be useful for a man who is not depressed. And vice versa. Therefore, here we divided 7 (imaginary) levels of human growth, as well as 7 ways in which we can build self-confidence. There is the level of improvement, prosperity, growth for all things.

Level 1 — Very serious difficulties –

These include people with serious mental difficulties. They feel very bad about themselves. An enormous amount of hatred and anger. Constant feeling of fear, hopeless, unhappiness etc. They feel ugly, disgusting and miserable.
They hate the world and everything in it. They are waiting for a tragedy to happen. They have no control in life.

What I recommend?
Can you relate? Do you recognize yourself in the description above? Unfortunately the only solution would be to ask the experts. Only a qualified person would really help you to feel better. This is not to offend you but for you to come to the level of growth you deserve.

You’ll need to help yourself. It is not a shame to admit our own weaknesses. It is a joy to admit our own weaknesses! Focus on the solution.

Level 2 — A person with low self-confidence –

This is a person on higher level than the last. But still it is not a functional person, and has problems with self-confidence and especially with shyness…

These people are too nice and polite, at least for the environment. However, they have a secret. They are filled with a strange fear. Worry for the future and regret for the past. It is difficult for them to enjoy. They don’t have a good opinion about themselves. They are not comfortable in their skin.

What do I suggest?

• Please be patient. Start with small things. Rome was not built in a day. Nor will your self-confidence.
• Do something. Work work work. Work will slowly turn your thoughts away from the concern to joy. Any activity is better than inactivity.
• Get a Diary. Since we have concluded that self-confidence is extremely important, you could keep “diary of self-confidence.”
  Record activities and thoughts that include self-confidence. 
  You can use paper notebook, free blogging software, Twitter or any other way. This will focus you on the self-confidence.
• Achieve a small goal. Small changes can actually cause some major changes. Cause a small controlled change. Of any type. Set a goal for yourself, a small, attainable, simple goal. And, reach for it. This will affect the way we think and feel the self-confidence.
• Do not compare. Give the best that you can to overcome comparisons with other people.

Shyness

Shyness is one of the main characteristics of this type of person. Shyness is uncomfortable feeling in social situations and interactions. How will you cope with shyness? It takes time! For starters, among other tips above, I recommend that you study the basics of communication (such as asking questions, what types of questions there are, body language etc.) and talk to as many people you can. At the beginning you will be imperfect, but you’ll learn.

Level 3 — “Average Person” –

Can you imagine the level of self-confidence of the average man? These people don’t have low level of self-confidence. They go through the day. Sometimes they feel (mentally) weak. Sometimes strong. And sometimes they are arrogant. They often understand self-confidence as arrogance. However, confidence is not arrogance nor expression of anger. Self-confidence goes beyond that.

These people usually have one of these two problems:

• They are manipulators

Here we talk about “Psychological manipulation.” Read this for more information.

These are the people who influence others through exploitative and abusive tactics. It is not necessary. It does not lead to happier lives. Manipulation leads to the collapse of your consciousness.

At the end you always capture in your own trap. With lies, denial, diversion, violence and other tactics, you make things so complex, that in the end you suffer.

• They are the victims

Victims are people who are taken advantage of by manipulators for their banal goals. Why to be a victim? Why suffer? It does not have to be some big things. It may be a tiny thing that make you unhappy but you do not oppose.

What I recommend?

Well, read the book “Pulling Your Own Strings” by Dr. Wayne Dyer. Later you can study the psychological manipulation through various books, but this is a good base.

Arrogance

Arrogance could be defined as “too much of self-confidence” or over-confidence… Arrogant people are actually insecure in themselves. They seem confident, because they have some “symptoms” of self-confidence. However, it is a fake. A person who believes in himself, has a deep inner certainty, and there is no need to show their strength. They simply do not depend on someone else’s opinion.

Arrogance is characteristic of the “average person.” How to deal with the arrogance? Become aware of it and strengthen your self-confidence.

Some more hints:

• Take time to learn about and explore the self-confidence. Read books, articles, blogs.

• Do not blame someone else. Refrain from blaming others. Find solutions to your problems.

• Practise and learn about body language. There are a lot of articles on body language. Learn more about this.

• Make a habit of doing good things to yourself. Show some love and respect yourself. You deserve it. Give yourself something nice. Treat yourself good.

Level 4 — A person who has periods of low and high self-confidence –

Similarly as last level, only slightly higher growth. This person is able to overcome the level of psychological manipulation. However, it has not reached the level of frequent self-confidence.

He still has moments of weakness. Indeed, this person is mentally strong. But if you want true happiness, you’ll need to progress beyond this level.

This level is the pinnacle of development for many lower level people. These people are generally satisfied with life. They live without too much fears. Mostly. They don’t manipulate other people, nor allow others to manipulate them. They often realize the importance of being in the present moment. They achieve their goals often. They know the true size of their own potential. Generally, they do not depend on someone else’s opinion. Sometimes they depend, but keep it at an acceptable level.

Some hints:

• Challenge your limits. Do something out of your comfort zone.
• Face a fear. We all have fears. Face with your fears. Start with small and go to serious fears.
• Make mistake. Make a planned mistake. Then laugh yourself.
• Be controversial. Do something so spontaneous that will amaze even yourself.
• Never take things too serious. Nothing is so serious. “Seriousness” is just an illusion of the mind.
• Remove anger. Anger is a reaction or a way to resistance reality. Learn to accept reality.

Level 5  — The ultimate self-confidence. –

This person was able to completely eliminate all barriers to self-confidence. He has achieved what many have not. This person does not have anger. Nor feel guilt. He believes in himself. He believes in his value.

Level 6 — The highest level of human development. –

What is the maximum level of development for human beings? What is this mystical person? How does this person behave?

What’s the foundation of this person? They can create whatever they want with a minimum of steps. However, they have overcome even this. They finally entered the state with minimum movement and maximum reach.

Further Resources

• 36 Excellent Resources For Building Your Self-Confidence

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